There is a new TV show on CBS called "Partners". It's great, incredibly funny. Its about two male best friends who are also business partners. One of them is gay and one of them is engaged to a woman (Sophia Bush, who I ADORE).You should check it out. ANYWAY, one of the partners (Louis, who is played by Michael Urie) tells Sophia Bush some "advice" to help her with her fiance. He says, "Secretly every man wants a woman from the 1950's" (don't quote me on that, I couldn't find a direct quote or the episode but that is pretty much the gist). Louis was trying to make the point that men want a woman that will clean for them, cook for them, be the "little woman".
Now, I am ALL for women's rights but I do not mind being that kind of woman for my man. However, that is also due to the fact that I LOVE cooking, love it, almost as much as I love eating it. I do not, however, enjoy cleaning. But I don't like living in a dirty house-who does? Even those people on hoarders clean their insanity. And, finally, I was always obsessed with "The Patty Duke Show" and "Pleasantville" and "The Dick Van Dyke Show" so really, I'm just playing dress-up.
BUT if every man (and when I saw every, I don't mean EVERY) wants a woman who will have dinner ready for him, rubs his shoulders, brings him his favorite drink while he watches TV, births his children...than every woman wants an old school gentleman-one who will hold the door open, give her his coat when she's cold, punch a guy who is rude to her. Of course, we all still want a freak in the bed.
Everyone's relationship is drastically different. I watch some people and wonder how on Earth they ever ended up together. We all think it. We see the couple where one is clearly better looking than the other and think, "How the Hell did that happen? Vodka?" Or the couple that CONSTANTLY fights and you just want to scream, "FILE THE PAPERS ALREADY!" despite the fact that you have only known them the 10 minutes it takes for you to pay for your take-out. There's also the couples who seemingly have it all together but you find out later that they were faking it or at least one of them was. Everyone is different but do we all want the same thing? And what is that one thing? Do we all want a Happily Ever After? Or just a happily ever now? Do we want a Prince Charming or the bad boy villain? Do we want Danny Zucko at the beginning or the end of Grease? Does it matter who the man is? Or do we just want to be the princess? The little woman?
I think even the women out there who are career-driven want The Guy (or gal). Everyone wants to find The One. Everyone wants to find that one person who understands them better than anyone else. Everyone wants to find the person who has the ability to fill in the holes we never even knew we had. Everyone wants someone who will hold their hand through everything and through nothing.
But does this hinder us as individuals? Does love hold us back or does it free us? Relationships, love, makes us responsible for another person, another's heart, another's soul. And in return, we give up a part of ourselves. We sign an unwritten unspoken contract-I will give you a part of me in return for a part of you; I will cherish this part of you, I will protect it and love it until my dying day; and in return, I ask that you do the same with the part of me that I am giving to you. It is the ultimate act of trust, blind faith. Does this act hold us back? Or does it somehow free us? Does being in love free us from fears? From everything?
SOOooo back to the original point, hmmm, was there an original point? Oh yes, talking about what men and women want from their partners. Do we want the Prince? Do we want to be the Princess? Do we want to be free or tied down? Honestly, I don't think we know what we want but I think we know it when we get it. I think we think we know what we want but only vaguely. I think, at least I like to believe, that when what we want really want and what we really need is front of us, we realize it and its not until its directly front of us, kissing us senseless that we recognize it. And it is up to us to hold onto it dearly.
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